There are a small but growing number of gay Mormon men who comment regularly on T&S and other bloggernacle blogs. Off the top of my head, I can think of at least four regular bloggernacle commenters — male — who have publicly discussed their homosexuality on-blog, on multiple occasions.
And yet, as my wife pointed out to me earlier today, it’s hard to think of a single regular lesbian commenter. (We do get links and the some comments fromone lesbian blogger, but I’m not sure if she’s LDS and I don’t recall coming away from her comments with the sense that she self-identifies as a Mormon lesbian, in the way that our gay male Mormon commenters vocally self-identify as gay Mormon men — though I could be misreading or misperceiving.)
So, where are all the Mormon lesbians?
A few possible potential explanations occur to me:
1. Maybe these statistics mean nothing. I can’t make very good generalizations from a sample size of four, can I? Frank and RT are going to have a field day explaining this to me.
2. In general, maybe women have better things to do than comment on blogs. (Discuss.)
2a. The bloggernacle in general is heavily male-skewed; perhaps the gay bloggernacle is the same.
2b. Maybe, as with many Mormon social phenonema, there’s the general-conference effect. If so, we may expect to see about 3 lesbians for every 20 gay men; I just need to be patient and they’ll show up eventually.
3. Maybe there are no Mormon lesbians. (Why not?)
3a. Maybe Mormon lesbians, being oppressed for both their gender and their orientation, just don’t stick around. Mormon gay men, on the other hand, are certainly oppressed for their orientation — but they do get to be the oppressor sometimes as well, by virtue of their gender. So some of them choose to stick around, come to the bloggernacle, and make comments. Hey, that works! (This argument has the disadvantage of relying on at least one non sequitur).
4. Maybe all of the Mormon lesbians inadvertently ended up in an alternate blog universe somewhere, and are all standing around asking each other “where are all the Mormon gay men?” (Frank: What’s the statistical likelihood of this happening?)
5. Or perhaps for some reason, the cultural norms of the bloggernacle make it easier for Mormon gay men to self-identify as such, on-blog. So maybe there are a number of lesbian readers and commenters, but they just don’t feel comfortable self-identifying as such, while the men feel comfortable doing so. (Why would that happen?)
Which of these, if any, might be true? Is there a good explanation for the lack of Mormon lesbians in our comments?